I originally started this blog to share my son journey as a SWAN (Syndrome without a Name) & I now include his younger sister who was born profoundly deaf so has her own journey too..,occasionally I will mention my older 2 kids who have no issues, it is just a place where I can get my feelings/thoughts out of my head & also to raise awareness...
A special bond between a boy & a dog....
There are lots of stories about how dogs make great therapy dogs for autistic children but I believe that dogs are great therapy for any kind of disability a child may have. Its not just dogs who make great therapy pets but cats, horses and small animals.
Ever since I was a little girl our family have always had pets , mainly dogs , and I grew up an animal lover. My very first dog was Judy - a springer spaniel who I followed everywhere, even slept walked to her bed and slept with her the whole night! When she passed away very suddenly it was heartbreaking as a pet is just like a family member and losing them is incredibly painful. My next dog was Black Bess who I got on my 18th birthday. She was special as she was completely mine and was sent away to be trained as a hearing dog...for 11yrs she was my constant companion as well as my Dad as he adored her and often asked to have her overnight! When she passed away from cancer before I fell pregnant with Roo I was heartbroken again and thought I could never have another one but when I developed anxiety and didn't feel safe without a companion I decided to apply for a Hearing Dog for the Deaf. It took five long years but I was finally matched to Pepper - a gorgeous show cocker x working cocker spaniel.
I did worry if it would be too much in having a hearing dog along with caring for Roo but thought we would never know unless we tried and it was the best decision ever in letting her into our lives. She settled in so well and so quickly and wasn't fazed at all by the busy environment around her with three boys running riot, yelling and the screaming from Roo. There was a worry that it would prevent her from working but instead she just worked around the boys and didn't let them distract her...she really is amazing.
But the most amazing thing is seeing the bond develop between her and Roo...at first Roo was very wary and didn't like the feel of her fur as he is the same with our cat but gradually Roo got used to the feeling and now adores stroking her! Roo even started to cuddle her, something he rarely did even to us..he just didn't do affection but for some reason he started to show affection to Pepper and eventually he did to us and now he will give us cuddles, something I treasure very much - the feeling of your child putting their arms around your neck.
Roo has always struggled sometimes with the attention his brothers give him as he doesn't like to be mollycoddled or touched or sometimes even them looking at him. But now he is more tolerant to them and even has started to cuddle them and interact with them. He still has his bad days where he cannot tolerate them but they are much fewer than before. But since the bond between him and Pepper has grown he is learning to build relationships and this is such a positive thing.
Pepper even has helped Roo to accept Shadow as before he couldn't bear the feel of Shadow touching him but now he will touch him which is a step in the right direction but Shadow is a bit scared of him so often runs away whenever Roo goes near him!
There are days when Roo is so tired from the lack of sleep or doing too much exercise the day before that he isn't interested in anything and just wants to go in his dark den with his ipad and not to be disturbed, or not wanting to interact but just shut himself away watching his favourite programmes but yet during those times he will go over to Pepper and lie beside her and cuddle her for a few mins and I see him smiling, starting to chill more and it seems to give him wee boost of energy and he starts to run around, doing his crazy moves before collapsing in an exhausted heap again.
One of his first words was "eeah" which sounded similar to Pepper and gradually over the past few months its progressed to "epa" and he is really trying to talk and coming out with some words and even is trying hard to sign! He never really showed any interest in communication but now he is trying and I really do believe Pepper has a lot to do with it...He still has a long way to go but he is finally stepping in the right direction in communication and its exciting to see if it progresses...
When we are out and about or in the house he will sometimes suddenly scream and become quite distressed about something he doesn't like, changes or something and he is practically inconsolable but I have found that if I bring Pepper to him and lift his hand to touch her he will then cuddle her and gradually he starts to calm down and eventually stops crying so I have started to encourage Pepper to go to Roo every time he is upset just to reassure him and she will sometimes jump up onto his lap if he is sitting in his buggy/chair and lets him cuddle her sobbing and she stays there till he calms down. She really is amazing , the patience she has with him, even on days when he can be a bit rough and pinch her she doesn't let it faze her and just gets up and walks over to me and gives me a look as if to say " he is being too rough"! I am currently trying to get him to understand that if I say NO when he starts being a bit too rough it means he has to stop.
The change in Roo since Pepper first entered our world is amazing to see, a lot of his progress is due to the fact that his IIH is now in remission but a part of it is due to the bond he shares with Pepper...Pepper has and still is teaching Roo a lot about the world around him and that's is just amazing...Ive said amazing a bit too much in this haven't I?!
"Dogs teach us a lot of things, but none more important than to love unconditionally"